It’s been just over a month since our big day and I’ve had a bit of time to reflect on the entire year experience of planning our dream wedding. Beforehand, I received tons of advice from former brides and come the wedding day, I found many things to ring true for me, while others not so much. And while the planning stress is a real thing, there are definitely ways to keep it at bay and genuinely ENJOY the process (I did!).
1.) Use your resources- and don’t be afraid to ask for help!
You’ll probably find that after you get engaged, lot’s of people will reach out with offers of help. The best thing you can do is TAKE THEM UP ON THIS! Now is not the time to try and be a hero and do this all yourself. Having a solid support system I could call on for help made all the difference this past year. My parents, in laws, bridal party and friends all stepped in when I needed them. And of course, most importantly, leaning on your fiance and vice versa to take on planning as a team makes the whole experience easier and also more fun! Andrew and I often looked at planning tasks as an excuse to share something exciting and spend time together and I was grateful we were both involved in the decision making.
2.) Hire vendors you connect with!
Choosing vendors can be one of the toughest part of planning. There are so many qualified professionals in the wedding industry and it can definitely feel overwhelming. Andrew and I ended up selecting the vendors that we clicked with most and felt truly cared about us as a couple. Keep in mind that you spend a decent amount of time with many of your vendors on your wedding day- hair and makeup were the first people I saw that morning when I woke up, the photographer is with you constantly, and your DJ/Band sets the mood for the entire evening- so it’s pretty important that you enjoy their company! Truly feeling like I had full trust and confidence in my vendors gave me so much peace of mind leading up to the wedding and helped keep the stress down.
3.) Get out of your own head- and don’t let anyone else get in either!
It’s easy to start overthinking things in the months leading up to your wedding day. You’ll probably attend other weddings, scroll through pinterest, and hear unsolicited opinions that could potentially cause you to second guess things. While respecting family and those involved in the wedding is important, at the end of the day, what matters most is what you and your fiance really want. As cheesy as it sounds, you really have to listen to your heart and not your head- because otherwise, you will start to drive yourself crazy. Take peoples thoughts and suggestions with a grain of salt and try your best to tune into what makes YOU happy.
Try and remember: this process is supposed to FUN! You’re planning the best day of your life and it’s incredibly exciting. The last thing you want to do is spend the entire year of planning stressed and anxious so, relax! It’s true what people say: absolutely none of the details or the things that go wrong will matter when you’re saying “I Do” to the love of your life. You’ve already made the only decision that matters. Let go, trust your gut, and have a blast!